Over 1.3m engaged followers on social media love to hear Tova Leigh's frank, funny, outrageous and often moving views on life. This updated paperback is filled with all that and more, with the addition of a new chapter on life in lockdown. “I was bored, angry, tired and sad. I felt all alone, yet I had nothing to complain about. I had a good job, a husband who wasn't shagging his assistant, three children who apart from being occasional a**holes were pretty good kids; a house, a dog and everything else we are told as little girls we should aspire to. But inside, I was restless. I didn't want to be seen as ‘just a mom’. I wanted to be desired, to make someone's hair stand on end and go crazy for me. I panicked, and wondered how many years I had left of being ‘f**ckable’ before everything starts going downhill?”
F*cked at 40 is a funny, raw and empowering mid-life crisis. Tova Leigh takes the reader along on her journey of rediscovering her identity after motherhood, encouraging women to break free from society’s expectations. When you find authenticity it's like opening a door to the truth – it's hard to go back. This is what prompted Tova to write this book for herself and for women like her, to say: HERE I AM.
This paperback edition of Tova's bestselling memoir includes a brand-new, hilarious chapter on her life, revealing how vibrators didn't just add a zing to life but also provided an income that put food on the table.
For every woman that has ever felt trapped. A funny, raw and empowering mid-life-crisis-with-a-difference, vlogger, mother, lover businesswoman and social media phenomenon Tova Leigh explores what the hell you are supposed to do when you find yourself living a life you don't remember signing up for.
"I was bored, angry, tired and sad. I felt all alone yet I had nothing to complain about. I had a good job, a husband who as far as I could tell wasn't shagging his assistant, three children who apart from being the occasional assholes were pretty good kids; a house, a dog and everything else we are told as little girls we should aspire to. But inside, I was growing restless. I was sick of having the same dull conversations about meal plans and kid-friendly holidays. I was frustrated with having the same married sex I'd been having for the past seven years, or not having any sex at all. I didn't want to be looked at as just a 'mom'. I wanted to be desired, to make someone's hair stand on end and go crazy for me. I didn't want to live by some label that didn't represent me. I looked at my messy SUV after my yoga class one morning and I wanted to vomit on it all. I panicked, thinking about how I am slowly approaching middle age and the menopause and I wondered how many years do I have left of being 'f**ckable' before everything starts going downhill?"
We have many sides to us, most of the time we think we must choose just one character and stick to it. But the truth is, we can be all of them without having to choose. I am finally able to show the world that I am a bit of an idiot who dances around her kitchen in her knickers and makes silly videos with her husband, as well as a responsible parent and a businesswoman who runs her own company.
When you find authenticity it's hard to go back. It's like opening a door to the truth and starting to breathe a new type of air. This discovery is what prompted me to write. It's my way of saying HERE I AM. I don't think we should be sorry for who we are. None of us.
"Tova Leigh has been there, done that, and lived to tell the healing, hilarious tale."
—Sarah Knight, New York Times bestselling author of The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck
"A funny, honest account of motherhood and ageing that women from all walks of life will relate to."
- The Sun
Funny and irreverent"
— Grazia Book Club"Tova's book is a refreshing dose of reality, telling it like it really is, while being funny at the same time!"
— Dr Philippa Kaye, GP and author of The M word: Everything you need to know about the menopause"Tova’s book is funny, entertaining and relatable. A must read for any Mum!"
- Danielle Collins, The Face Yoga Expert and author of Danielle Collins' Face Yoga“The way she talks about her body, her relationship with her body, seizing the day ultimately and just living life. I found it really refreshing.”
- Giovanna Fletcher"Buy it, have a read of it, it's good fun."
- Nadia Sawalha "... the best thing is you don't have to be 40 (or f*cked) to enjoy it!"
- Kaye Adams"You don't have to be a mum to read it, you don't need to be 40 to read it, you just need to read it!"
- Pina Crispo"Hilarious, funny, raw, intellectual, engaging, witty read, this book is for you"
- Lucy Werner, author of bestseller Hype Yourself
"It's about love, relationships, happiness, motherhood, it's acceptance of who you are and the age you are and age is just a number."
- Sophie McCartney, Tired 'N Tested blog
